If you have been feeling that your relationship has reached a stalemate of sorts, there is never a better time than this time of the year to give it
a fresh lease of life. Sonal Bhatia tells you how.
I will communicate well with my partner: Taking this lovely vow together will strengthen your relationship and you will set love goals for others. “To ensure you reduce the number of misunderstandings, it is good to connect well and communicate things with each other well in advance”, says Aakshiv Suneja, a newly-engaged business fellow.
I will focus on their wishes: To ensure that love wins, this vow is an important one. “Your spouse will tell you in one way or the other what they actually desire. Take cues, observe and keep their wishes in mind. From visiting romantic destinations together to buying things of their choice, do it all, and be locked in love forever,” advises love and parenting expert Mohit Jha.
I will find special time for my better half: Just as important it is to achieve your set goals, it is extremely necessary to keep track of the special time you spend with your partner. Don’t let the workload take away your special moments. Even brief casual dates go a long way in bridging the gap in relationships. Don’t let official calls and texts play a dampener while the two of you are engaging in some we-time. Rather, switch off your phone for a while, and enjoy your romantic time together.
I will try to lessen arguments: Conflicts will come as arguments are unavoidable in a relationship. You might not talk to your partner post-fights, but beyond point that is the most immature thing to do while handling such a sensitive issue. You must talk and chalk out a strategy to resolve all issues quickly, while lessening the arguments.
I will discuss: When you take decisions, remember it is not only you who will be affected by it. Your partner will be equally affected by all your decisions, therefore, before doing anything, make sure you discuss such matters well with them. You don’t need to tell them everything of course, but you must picture them in your mind while taking a new step forward.
I will talk about my insecurities: If you feel jealous or insecure if she/he goes out with a particular friend, don’t merry go round with this, rather be open and let them know about it. Talking about it will release the negative energies. Sympathise with each other’s insecurities but let them hang loose to ensure cordiality.
I won’t force my decisions on them: “Never ever do that if you want a lasting relationship,”says Vandana Pal, a mother of two and married for the last 10 years. She adds, “People ask me and my husband the secret of our lasting love, and I always tell every couple to keep each foot forward together and close. Being in tandem is the key, which very few actually practice.”
I will keep the spark alive: With increased responsibilities and workload, your relation might go a little out of track. To keep the love levels up, you need to keep the romantic spark alive throughout the year. Don’t wait for Valentine’s Day to express your love for your beloved. Rather, you must keep doing pretty little things such as leaving letters for each other, plan to go on little holidays, honeymoon trips, candlelit dinners, etc.
I will love them unconditionally: Your man might gain weight, she might get fine lines, he may look different from the time you met, but remember you promised to love him unconditionally. So, be with your partner at all stages of life, and prove to be a loveable husband/wife.
